I’m taking a week “blogiday”, so enjoy these oldies but goodies!
I am going to level with you … be straightforward as it were. About six months ago, I had somewhat of an “I’m fed up with this” outburst on the Hill City Bride facebook page. At the time, I had encountered several passé “trends” that people were still including in aspects of their weddings, and I had just had enough! Well, I posted the following status …
I am seriously thinking about doing an “in” and “out” posting … like what trends are in and which ones are out. I have some that I can NOT stand!! Any ideas on what should go into this posting? Feel free to sound off … I know I will when I write it.
As suspected both brides, former brides and wedding vendors stood their ground and posted what they were tired of seeing, and (in my humble opinion) things that should never be. So, welcome to my “In and Out”. Truly, this is not meant to offend as these are just opinions, but if you take the advice of professionals and those that are in the know, I would heavily consider listening to the experts (names withheld to protect the not so innocent).
This is Part Two (just click HERE to see Part One) …
Overly Posed Photography
Out are the backdrops of yesteryear. Why settle for studio style photographs with a backdrop pretending to be in a beautiful location when you could, well, opt for an ACTUAL beautiful location. You live in Central Virginia!! What a gorgeous place with its downtown area, waterways and rolling hills.
You can have a variety of photographs by creating your own scenes or merely going to a scenic location … even if you go in between your wedding and reception or schedule a “day after” wedding session. Candid photos and capturing the moments are more of today’s style. A great rule of thumb is to keep it relaxed and lighthearted to capture those truly special instances instead of trying to create them. Your photos will be more natural and memorable because it will really be who you are!
Traditional Guest Books
Long gone are the days where guests sign an actual book … yes, even sometimes if it is a book with photos of the couple (although this is MUCH better than a fill in the blank book merely with lines for guests to sign). Why not think outside of the book and choose something unique that speaks to you as a couple … one vendor stated, “… guitars, a boat oar, a bench … make it a piece of art you can proudly display for years to come.” Be creative and have fun!!
Matchy, Matchy, Pouf, Pouf
Don’t torment your bridesmaids! Anything with a pouf (ok, unless it is strategically placed rouching or something cool like that) is way gone. Also, your bridesmaids do not have to match. Pick a color scheme (or send them a color sample), and have them find their own dress that coordinates. That way they will have a dress that they will love and keep while expressing their own personality. They can also set their own dress budget that way. Sending them a fabric swatch with a few guidelines along with suggested shoe color will send your friends and sisters squealing with delight to go and shop for a fun look for standing by your side.
Here are a few other “outs” that were mentioned:
- pairing red roses with baby’s breath
- wedding party jumping and/or sunglass photos
- doing everything that magazines (ok and blogs!) say you should
- damask … go for plaid instead!
- black and white cakes
- unity candles/sand … do something creative instead!
Ok, I think that is a pretty great list, BUT I am sure that you have a few other things of your own to sound off about. If so, feel free to leave a comment.
It’s your day, and be unique! Never question letting your own personality shine through on your wedding day … after all, it is YOUR day. Happy planning!
Images from top to bottom by: mbaylor, JamesHenry, and Bludgeoner86 all from Flickr.